Veering off track

25 Apr

I am loyal to a fault. You are in or you are out with me. However, as steadfast as my feelings are, I still manage to jump around when it comes to my life. I’m not afraid of commitment, but I tend to seek change. I veer off track with the slightest provocation.

I wish I could stay more focused. I started out at a small private college transferred to a larger commuter population university and then finally ended up graduating from the University of Florida. I was an education major turned communications major turned mass communication major and finally graduated with a degree in journalism. I did do all this in four years, but it was a haphazard four years to say the least.

I was raised in Massachusetts, went to school in Florida, moved back to Massachusetts after graduation, back to Florida with work and am now back in Massachusetts. My life might be one long game of ping pong.

I’ve had relationship failures, personal traumas and frankly, just plain bad luck. It hasn’t been the easiest getting to where I am now and I’m still dealing with the ramifications from my slips.

Sometimes I think if I could do it over, I’d have gone straight to the University of Florida and graduated from there with a degree in Business (threw that one out of left field, huh?). I would have moved straight to Boston, gotten a great job and skipped all the mistakes. But then I think about all the people I met and lessons I learned along the way- and I wouldn’t erase any hurdle in my life if it meant missing out on the people I count among my friends now.

Veering off track or merely hitting some speed bumps?

Would you take a do-over if you could?

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41 Responses to “Veering off track”

  1. JennSomethingClever April 25, 2013 at 8:29 am #

    I’m afraid of Florida. BUGS! GIANT, KILLER BUGS!

  2. dee April 25, 2013 at 8:32 am #

    Oh gosh this really speaks to me. I think I’ve made all the wrong choices on the career front and there are moments when I really wish I could have a do-over, if a genie or a fairy appeared in front of me and asked me for a wish, I’d probably wish myself back to 16 so I could do things right.

    But then I think… But what about my friends? If I hadn’t done this mistake, I wouldn’t have met these people. And for every “wrong turn” I took, I met people that I wouldn’t give up, not for a do-over.

    So maybe some mistakes are meant to happen.

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 8:38 am #

      I agree that some mistakes are meant to happen, but I do wish I could borrow that genie of yours to take back some times!

  3. Kimberly H. Smith April 25, 2013 at 9:01 am #

    I’d love a do-over of high school! I often think about all those movies where people get to go back in time. I’d study more and do more community activities. And I’d foster my relationship with my younger sister better. Since a do-over isn’t in the cards, I’m content with learning from mistakes and passing those lessons on to my son. But it is fun to dream!

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 9:02 am #

      It definitely is fun to dream! High school would have been a breeze if it were my second time going through it!

  4. running mama April 25, 2013 at 10:10 am #

    It’s hard to know when you’re making a real mistake and when your really getting an invaluable life lesson…

  5. Dana April 25, 2013 at 10:11 am #

    Sounds like we are on the same page about this – I also think of all the people I would not have met if I had done things differently. I like the idea of speed bumps – they are obstacles but they aren’t insurmountable.

  6. Julia of A Dose of Jules April 25, 2013 at 10:16 am #

    I think I would like certain do-overs…..but, it could totally through off the amazing things that have occurred afterwards. Don’t know.

  7. The Sadder But Wiser Girl April 25, 2013 at 10:27 am #

    I wanted to go to FSU!

    There are portions of my life that I’d like to do over, like the ones I mentioned in my post. Stupid little things, and the whole damn career thing. But I wouldn’t trade my kids or husband for anything most of the time, though there are days… 😉

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 10:28 am #

      They are lucky- if only they knew you could just snap your fingers 🙂

  8. The Dose of Reality (@TheDoseTweets) April 25, 2013 at 10:41 am #

    I would definitely take some do-overs in my life. For sure. Great post!-The Dose Girls

  9. Sugar & Spice & All Things ? Nice April 25, 2013 at 10:58 am #

    Different perspective….you say “veering” and although it is a good “V” word, could it also be interpreted as exploring?? Now that would be a good thing….

  10. Janine Huldie April 25, 2013 at 11:44 am #

    I tried to go to NYU and loved it, but it was right around the time I met my husband. It was hard to commute back and forth. Sometimes, I wish I would have stuck with it or least would have tried to get my masters there a bit sooner. But like you said I wouldn’t have met or gotten to where I am at this point without what I did. No need crying over spilled milk!!

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 11:45 am #

      Commuting would have been miserable. At least if you cry over the spilled milk, clean it up!

  11. pnkheelspnktrk April 25, 2013 at 11:50 am #

    I would like to say that I would like a do-over, but in all reality I don’t really want one. I think similar events would’ve happened regardless of if my choices would’ve been different. I think our paths are charted well before we are born & no matter what earthly choices we have, we will still get to the same result. Maybe a few more highs than lows or maybe in the reverse. I am who I am because of all the experiences that have happened to me/for me. And really it’s all about taking the next step forward and not looking to far backwards. 😉

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 11:51 am #

      You have your head on straight that’s for sure! It sounds like you have a wonderful life. I’m glad you don’t have any significant do-over requests 🙂

  12. School of Smock April 25, 2013 at 1:17 pm #

    I’ve thought about this so much lately because I’m finally getting my doctorate next month. I was in a doctoral program right after college, and I’ve been thinking about whether I really regret the (more than) 15 year period between my doctoral programs. Should I have just finished the first stupid doctoral program (instead of leaving at age 22) and be done at 27, or was it worth the years of exploring and ultimately deciding to go back and return to the same thing?

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 1:26 pm #

      The grass is always greener I guess. We will never know the “right” answer!

  13. journeysofthezoo April 25, 2013 at 4:06 pm #

    I’ve lost a child so I try not to think about “do overs”. They don’t change the past. I try to learn from my mistakes but I don’t see that as a do over, more as a “smart move” (smile).

    To answer your question, even if I could, I wouldn’t.

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    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 4:14 pm #

      Thanks Sarah! Learning from my mistakes is definitely a better way of looking at things! I will come check out your blog hop 🙂

  14. megan April 25, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    Yeah, I probably would. I’m like you. I have made some choices which have now led me to be in a place where I don’t particularly want to be. So yeah, I think I would!

  15. Vanessa April 25, 2013 at 7:22 pm #

    I would take a do-over in a heart beat once I figure out where it needs to start.

  16. Jean Heff April 25, 2013 at 8:34 pm #

    I think you’ve wisely come to the correct conclusion of all your wandering. You took your experiences and used them to better your life. There is a great TS Eliot quote about that but sadly I can’t remember it. Now, I’m off to learn what Theme Thursday is:)

  17. Jessica April 25, 2013 at 8:57 pm #

    It’s so easy to look back on our lives and think what would have been had we done one thing differently… but I agree that you would have missed out on all the lovely people you know now and all the great experiences you’ve had. You experience what you experience for a purpose, for a lesson, and I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. 🙂

    Have fun with the rest of a-z.

  18. Shay April 25, 2013 at 10:28 pm #

    I don’t even like to dabble in that question! Because there are quite a few things I’d love to do over, but at the time, I did what was right for me without having the hindsight vision that I have now. (Does that make sense?) And if I had done them over–it’s cliche, but I’m going to say it anyway–chances are I wouldn’t have my husband and my kids and dammit, they’re awesome and I love them more than anything. So…where does that even leave me? I guess that means no. No do-overs. 🙂

    • Another Clean Slate April 26, 2013 at 7:40 am #

      Ha- leaves you stuck with your awesome husband and kiddos. No do-overs for you!!!

  19. lisanewlin April 26, 2013 at 1:02 am #

    I think you know how I feel about things happening in your life, even if they’re bad. NO DO OVERS! It’s what makes you who you are, which is fabulous…except for the Massachusetts part. I would have stayed in sunny Florida if I were you. 🙂

    • Another Clean Slate April 26, 2013 at 7:39 am #

      I do miss that sunshine!!

      • lisanewlin April 26, 2013 at 9:36 am #

        Since you live in Boston, and since I’ve never been to Boston, I’m taking this as an invitation to come visit for a weekend. I’ve seen the photos of your apartment and I find them perfectly acceptable.

        I assume you’ll sleep on the couch?

      • Another Clean Slate April 26, 2013 at 9:42 am #

        I much prefer sleeping on my air mattress when guests take my bed. Yay visitors!

      • lisanewlin April 26, 2013 at 8:38 pm #

        Whew! I’m so glad you’re okay with that, because it was going to be awkward when I had to kick you out of your own bed. Thanks for making that easy for me.

        Feel free to start planning our adventures for my visit. You know where Joey McIntyre lives, right? That’s gonna have to be on the list of things to see.

  20. Me April 26, 2013 at 11:27 am #

    I just loved how your Graduation years went and were you ended up. Even thou it wss obviously felt crazy you became what you meant to be.

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