Meet my dad’s girlfriend

21 Apr

“You know, we could still cancel,” I said to my boyfriend.

“Katie, you know we can’t do that,” he replied. “You can talk to a brick wall. I’m sure you can sit through dinner with this woman.”

Easy for him to say. The last time I saw her was at the surprise 25th anniversary party I threw for my parents. She attended with her husband. That was five years ago.

“Alright, let’s go,” I skillfully sulked.

We walked to the restaurant and were told we could wait at the bar. I had wanted to arrive early to suck down a glass of wine before their arrival any ways. So I did just that.

Time ticked. We got our table and sat down. They texted they would be late. They had to bring her spawn somewhere on the way and it took longer than expected. More wine for me.

I began to relax. I could handle this. I loosened my grip on my boyfriend’s hand. He flexed his fingers in relief.

“Katie,” I heard over my shoulder.

“Hi Dad,” I said as I gave him half of a hug. “Hi Mary*.”

“Why did you pick this place?” she said. “I can’t hear myself think.”

“I think its great,” my dad said.

“It’s one of our favorites,” my boyfriend said. “We thought you’d like it.”

“Oh,” said Mary with a frown.

We all sat down.

We ordered appetizers and when they arrived Mary sent them back.

“Too cold,” she said.

My boyfriend squeezed my leg to acknowledge how nice I was being and likely to keep me staying that way.

We ordered our meals and when they arrived Mary sent hers back.

“Too salty,” she snapped. “Don’t bother bringing me anything else.”

My boyfriend paused awkwardly as he was bringing a bite of the same meal to his lips. He then shrugged and continued eating. It was fine with him.

I went to the bathroom and ran into the waitress on the way. We were regulars at this restaurant and she recognized us.

“I’m so sorry you are being treated this way. She doesn’t belong to me,” I said.

“I’m sorry you’re sitting with her,” she laughed.

Back at the table we wrapped things up. Mary suggested we do this again. We nodded dumbly in agreement.

We all stood up and walked them to their car. Mary leaned in for a hug and I stuck out my hand.

“Oh Katie, really?” she said rolling her eyes.

“I’m not much of a hugger,” I apologized as my dad rubbed my shoulder.

They got in the car and left and I looked at my boyfriend. “I did good, right?”

“Yah,” he laughed. “You did good.”

He grabbed my hand and we walked home making fun of her the entire way. Well, maybe I made fun of her the entire way while he listened. But it helped.

* Name was changed to protect the not so innocent.

This post is being submitted to the yeah write writing challenge. Come join me!

Kate sig

78 Responses to “Meet my dad’s girlfriend”

  1. Me April 21, 2013 at 8:51 am #

    I like the flow of this! πŸ™‚ It’s always too much of stress to be polite in front of someone we don’t like.

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:28 pm #

      Thanks! You are so right. It takes such effort!

    • vickimtaylor April 22, 2013 at 10:26 am #

      I enjoyed your story very much. It flowed very well. You were a SAINT to put up with so much! Followed you from SITS. Have a blessed day!

  2. Janine Huldie April 21, 2013 at 9:28 am #

    I am a hugger and so would not of hugged her either. Wow, was all I kept thinking and seriously you are a better and nicer person then me!! Sorry that you even had to put up with that or have to deal with her at all.

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

      I’m not better. This dinner was after many bratty responses to invites. I was just to make my dad happy… Clueless men.

  3. running mama April 21, 2013 at 9:40 am #

    I can’t imagine having to go through that. Sounded like you handled it well. I might have stood in silence if my hand was met with eye rolling or more likely a tantrum where I stalked off after getting my big girl panties in a bunch.

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:30 pm #

      Sometimes I think it annoys people more when I am extra nice. However, the hug was pushing it!

  4. helen jameson April 21, 2013 at 9:54 am #

    You showed so many emotions in how the central character reacted rather than just telling a story. I understand totally the idea of being forced to break bread with an arch enemy. Some people don’t deserve a fine meal…more like bread, water, and a toothpick for roughage…..just saying.

  5. Becca April 21, 2013 at 10:07 am #

    You’re a good writer! This felt like a page out of a book. Anyway, you handled that really well. I would have been making snide comments.

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:30 pm #

      Thanks Becca! Plenty of snide comments on the walk home…

    • outlawmama April 23, 2013 at 9:25 am #

      I agree. Great story. I am loving the waitress and your connection with her. Divorce sounds so hard, no matter what age you are!

  6. JccKeith April 21, 2013 at 11:30 am #

    I know some people just like that, can’t stand to be around them

  7. The Dose of Reality April 21, 2013 at 11:51 am #

    Oh, wow. How could someone be so horrible and critical when you were trying so hard. I’m not as nice as you are. I would have started being insufferable during the dinner. So glad you did the handshake maneuver!!

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:32 pm #

      You know… I tried to live that saying “be the bigger person” and in this case it worked. I’m not always so successful.

  8. Sunni Morris April 21, 2013 at 12:25 pm #

    Great post. Love the dialogue. I can picture the whole thing. I think we all know someone like this.


    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:32 pm #

      Thanks Sunni! And yes, most of us know more than one person- and avoid them!

  9. Jamie@SouthMainMuse April 21, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

    Great writing and a great story. So sorry that you had to live it. (But you can be proud of the way you handled yourself.)

  10. The Next Step April 21, 2013 at 4:11 pm #

    I’m not much of a hugger either, ESPECIALLY with people I don’t like who are rude and picky. Someone else cooked for petessake, enjoy it!! What in the world does your Dad see in her?

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

      I have no idea. She seems to be a tricky one. My dad had a group text keeping us updated about the Boston drama and she kept calling him pet names- so inappropriate with his kids seeing!

      • The Next Step April 21, 2013 at 8:16 pm #

        gross, rude, and totally lacking in respect. you are right – our two posts today totally go together!

  11. lisanewlin April 21, 2013 at 4:27 pm #

    This woman sounds horrible! I’m sorry you had to deal with this, but you handled it appropriately.

    I’m not a hugger to people I like, so I definitely wouldn’t have hugged her. I would, however, have kneed her in the crotch and called her a hoe-bag.

    I think your approach was more professional. πŸ™‚

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

      Ohhh Lisa! I am TOTALLY inviting you to the next dinner!

      • lisanewlin April 21, 2013 at 7:25 pm #

        I can’t wait! It would be a fun time and would make for great blog posts for both of us!

        I get to pick the restaurant though, right?

      • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 7:26 pm #

        Heck yes- make sure it is nice and loud!

  12. Patricia April 21, 2013 at 5:26 pm #

    This is a great post! I felt like a was reading a good novel. Love it!

    The DIY Frenchie

  13. Dana April 21, 2013 at 6:05 pm #

    Sounds like you handled the dinner maturely – good for you! And good for you for making fun of Mary the whole way home too πŸ™‚

  14. Bradley Charbonneau April 21, 2013 at 8:31 pm #

    Great dialogue! Had me reading right along as fast as I could. Reminded me of a scene from The Joy Luck Club.

    You did good … but hopefully you don’t have to do it too much more!

    Bradley Charbonneau’s Pass the Sour Cream A-Z Challenge.

  15. Kerri April 21, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

    Please, please tell me that Mary* doesn’t know you have a blog. It might make the holidays even more awkward!!I’m sorry it was such an awkward experience for you. I know it was weird when my mom remarried. But now I consider him my dad. Of course, I was in my 30’s when she remarried and they never had children together. Which probably makes it much easier to like him. That and the fact that Allie has him wrapped around her finger. Actually that is what made us like each other. Go figure!

    • Another Clean Slate April 21, 2013 at 10:14 pm #

      Ahh- my dad doesn’t even know I have a blog. You lucked out with your stepfather πŸ™‚ Kids usually are the best judges of character!

  16. JulieYouJest April 21, 2013 at 10:46 pm #

    Oh, not fun! It was a great read though! Super job!

  17. Bradley Charbonneau April 22, 2013 at 2:10 am #

    I think you’ve been nominated before, but in case you’re up for it … I just nominated you for the Liebster! (Ha, spell check wanted that to be Lobster. :-)) More about it here: Liebster. You don’t have to accept it (there’s some “work” to do!), but please let me know either way so I can keep your link in my post.

    Bradley Charbonneau’s Pass the Sour Cream A-Z Challenge.

    • Another Clean Slate April 22, 2013 at 8:44 am #

      Thanks! I have been nominated before but it’s always fun to get it again. I probably wouldn’t be able to do the “work” right away so feel free to pass it on to someone who could. Thanks again!!

  18. Ghadeer April 22, 2013 at 2:45 am #

    I hate people who pick on the waiters!

  19. Alice in EW{The Owl's Skull} April 22, 2013 at 9:28 pm #

    Oh my, I have totally been there!! My Dad started dating my mother’s best friend after she encouraged my mom to get a divorce from my Dad because he was “such a jerk.” Really. Some women are unbelievable. Good luck. Fortunately, my Dad is no longer dating that woman. He is, however, dating a woman who is younger than me LOL. We should all be on an episode of Jerry Springer:)!!

    • Another Clean Slate April 22, 2013 at 9:30 pm #

      Wow! Some women just baffle me… glad he moved on for your mom’s sake although it’s too bad it wasn’t with someone more appropriate!

      Thanks again for featuring me this week on the hop!

  20. renΓ©e a. schuls-jacobson April 23, 2013 at 9:21 am #

    Soooooo awkward. I love the hand out. “I’m not a hugger.” Hahahahaha. πŸ˜‰ I’m here from Yeah Write. Come say hi!

  21. kirsten oliphant (@kikimojo) April 23, 2013 at 10:26 am #

    Yikes. That sounds so…awkward and awful. Three cheers for wine, a great buffer! πŸ™‚

    • Another Clean Slate April 23, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

      Wine is definitely the best buffer… shots would have been the last resort!

  22. zoe April 23, 2013 at 12:57 pm #

    nicely written. Nicely tolerated….you showed a lot of class that Im not so sure Im capable of!

    • Another Clean Slate April 23, 2013 at 2:37 pm #

      You’d be amazed what you can be capable of when trying to keep the peace!

      • Sunni Morris April 24, 2013 at 12:48 am #

        Boy isn’t that the truth!

  23. Joe April 23, 2013 at 1:46 pm #

    I remember meeting dad’s girlfriend for the first time. Luckily, she was okay.

    • Another Clean Slate April 23, 2013 at 2:37 pm #

      Glad she was okay! Maybe my dad will see the light and his next one will be fine πŸ™‚

  24. Stacie @ Snaps and Bits April 23, 2013 at 2:53 pm #

    She sounds awful! Hopefully it will change with time. So sorry. But you did do good!

  25. icescreammama April 23, 2013 at 3:09 pm #

    ha! names have been changed to protect the not so important!! funny story. she sounds terrible. you did great. πŸ™‚

    • Another Clean Slate April 23, 2013 at 4:10 pm #

      Thanks! The stories only get worse with her- she is a piece of work πŸ™‚

  26. Ken April 23, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

    I think that you did everything you could do to be the better person. Even though it seems that might not be much of a stretch with this woman.

    Well done. πŸ™‚

  27. nataliedeyoung April 23, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

    What well-told story! I could feel the awkwardness she provoked…

  28. Kendra (@KendraAllanson) April 23, 2013 at 10:57 pm #

    All I can say is that you’re so much nicer than I am!

  29. Michelle Longo April 24, 2013 at 7:45 am #

    I think you should have made fun of her. She behaved quite rudely! I liked, “She doesn’t belong to us.”

    • Another Clean Slate April 24, 2013 at 8:47 am #

      Oh, I have a whole vault of stories with this one. Let’s hope she never discovers I have a blog.

  30. RFL April 24, 2013 at 8:59 am #

    The dialogue in this is great. I can relate to the terrible girlfriend stories, just switch them to a terrible step-mother stories. You handled it better than I ever did though. Great post!

  31. mamarific April 24, 2013 at 10:21 am #

    You got me with this today. I am struggling to deal with my mother’s new “boyfriend” who used to come to our house with his wife before my dad died. I’m thinking that he is better than this woman sounds, though!!! But I still don’t like him…

    • Another Clean Slate April 24, 2013 at 10:26 am #

      Sorry you have to deal with that bozo. We should start a support group.

  32. Samantha Brinn Merel April 24, 2013 at 11:17 am #

    I love your quick connection with the waitress. And your boyfriend sounds like a keeper πŸ™‚

  33. ateachablemom April 24, 2013 at 3:59 pm #

    You may qualify for sainthood with how you handled this woman! Great story!

  34. iasoupmama April 24, 2013 at 10:22 pm #

    So glad that the woman my dad married isn’t the one he left my mother for. Not sure what kind of relationship we would have had if he’d married the “other woman.” Now, the woman my husband is dating? I’m pretty sure I don’t like her at all.

    • Another Clean Slate April 25, 2013 at 7:56 am #

      1 out 2 is better than nothing I guess. My mom was dating a decent guy but they are no longer today. Hopefully the next one will be equally decent!

  35. Karen April 25, 2013 at 11:07 pm #

    You capture the tension and awkwardness of that dinner perfectly. I loved the hug/handshake!

  36. semirenegade April 30, 2013 at 8:12 pm #

    And I love your authenticity. Glad to have found you, Kate.


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