Numbers nonsense

16 Apr

I have a confession. I’m a cougar. Well, not a cougar really. Maybe a puma? No, not really a puma.

I don’t know why I am having this conflicted conversation with myself.

I am dating a younger man. Yes, much younger. Much younger to me any ways.

The night we met, he thought I was 24 (I was 29) and I thought he was 28 (he was 25). We figured it out eventually, but both of us definitely had skewed initial ideas about the other’s age.

He is pretty darn awesome. I’m not going to pass up a great guy like this just because of a little thing like a number. Plus, he is very handsome. I’m older, but still shallow.

When he turned 26 in October, it was nice being able to say that we were only 3 years apart, but then last week, I turned 30, an age I had never dreaded until the day he said, “Hey, after next week we’ll never both be in our 20s again.” Great. He’ll still be in his 20s for almost four more years. I feel so old!

The boy has stepped it up, I’ll give him that. Seeing as how he has never dated anyone before over the age of 23, I am ancient. This is both a plus and a minus for him. On one hand, I am pretty clear about what I want and need. On the other hand, I am pretty clear about what I want and need. Plus doing something as minor as cooking him dinner was a big deal at first (what kind of girls was he dating?!).

We started dating at the beginning of last summer- a time I can usually “hang” a lot better than in the winter months. In the winter, I like to be cozy on the couch and be home before its impossible to find a taxi in the cold- you know, I’ve got some years on me. He soon found this out. Luckily, he is okay with making some lifestyle concessions for me. Hey, we all have to grow up someday, right? Age is just a number, anyways.

How do you feel about dating out of your immediate age group?

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58 Responses to “Numbers nonsense”

  1. Shawna April 16, 2013 at 8:04 am #

    Pretty sure that makes you a Bobcat.. not quite a cougar.. but just a little bit.. 🙂

    Who cares about age? Nick is 7 years older than I am. When I was younger it seemed odd but now it’s really not that big of a deal.

    Also I think you two are very cute together! 🙂

  2. megan April 16, 2013 at 8:15 am #

    You guys are so cute together! I’ve always said age shouldn’t matter (of course, I suppose there are some limitations to that- heard on the radio today of a 17 year old girl who wants to take her 25 year old boyfriend to prom. yuck)- but what matters is how much you care for one another.

    • Another Clean Slate April 16, 2013 at 9:17 am #

      Thank you!! You are right- it’s more of a joke with us 🙂 And there definitely are some limitations!!!

  3. dee April 16, 2013 at 8:50 am #

    You’re right! Age is just a number! My mom is 10 years older than my dad! If she had let a number deter her (or fear of being called a cougar or puma or whatever), I wouldn’t be alive to make this comment today!

  4. Elliot B. April 16, 2013 at 9:54 am #

    I’m on the opposite end. My girlfriend is older than I am. It’s really not about how old you are but how old you act 🙂
    Elliot
    We Are Adventure

  5. Sugar & Spice & All Things ? Nice April 16, 2013 at 12:47 pm #

    Great post. . Four years is not an “age difference” it is just different dates for your birth year!! Enjoy each other and don’t worry about such things …

    • Another Clean Slate April 16, 2013 at 12:50 pm #

      It is just a fun thing to tease each other about 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

  6. jesstopper April 16, 2013 at 1:12 pm #

    Love the pic, and the story behind it! I know couples who are the same age yet they are (emotionally) light-years apart. So I think it’s great you both have found each other and you’re on the same page, so to speak. Rawr! (That’s my bobcat/puma/cougar hybrid salute to you) Enjoy!

    Jess/ Blogging on the Brink

  7. Jules (@mymomsawhackjob) April 16, 2013 at 2:15 pm #

    I typically date younger men. The guy I am seeing now is four years younger than me. For so many reasons. One, they are in better shape, not fat or bald yet. I’m vain as well! Two, they can keep up and are a helluva lot more fun. I have yet to date someone my age or older that isn’t an old fart.

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  9. Kate April 16, 2013 at 4:25 pm #

    Four years is nothing. Although I have to say I got plenty of mileage out of my husband turning 40 whilst I was still in my 30s (he is going to laugh so hard when I turn 40 later this summer!).

    Kate x
    Kate at Home

    • Another Clean Slate April 16, 2013 at 4:39 pm #

      I am sure he will! He can laugh his way to the store to get you a fantastic gift 🙂

  10. Rachel G April 16, 2013 at 6:05 pm #

    I’m in the opposite (and probably more common situation) in that my husband is 7 years and 4 days older than I am. When we first met, I was 17 and he was 24, so it seemed slightly more scandalous back then. 😛 I can’t stand guys younger than me…of course, I’m 21, so most guys younger than me are still teenagers, and who can stand teenage boys, anyways?

    • Another Clean Slate April 16, 2013 at 6:13 pm #

      Ohhh an intriguing older man I am sure when you met- that’s probably a fun story!

  11. modmomelleroy April 16, 2013 at 7:18 pm #

    What a cute couple you two are! You’re right; age is just a number and it’s not like he’s Ron Wood and you’re 15. haha

  12. allison @ TIME OUT April 16, 2013 at 9:33 pm #

    Girl, you don’t look a day over 24! Age is definitely a number.. my husband is 8 years older than I am!

  13. The Dose of Reality April 16, 2013 at 10:04 pm #

    I don’t consider your guy outside of your age group…but so you know…..
    My husband is 3 years younger than I am, and we’re celebrating our 19th anniversary in a few days, so I may be biased! –Lisa 😉

    • Another Clean Slate April 16, 2013 at 10:11 pm #

      We just like to tease each other but I love hearing your “success story.” Makes me feel better 🙂

  14. Ashlee April 16, 2013 at 10:35 pm #

    My mom is also 4 years older than my dad and they met when he was 17 and she was 21. That’s way weirder. 🙂

    Ramblings of a Silly Girl

  15. KG Style Designs (@kgstyleinc) April 17, 2013 at 12:05 pm #

    I don’t mind it as long as we have things in common and can have decent conversations because what’s a relationship without decent convos?

    Kudos to you! Best thing in life is to be happy…

  16. Divorced Kat (@1stYrDivorce) April 17, 2013 at 1:07 pm #

    I’m 33, and I’m quite pleased that my hookup buddy just turned 26. Something about me with a 25 year old was making me feel a little old or something. (But on the other hand, go me! A guy that much younger thinks I’m hot!)

  17. School of Smock April 17, 2013 at 2:24 pm #

    I’m a year older than my husband. I’ve done both though in the past (dated a bit older, dated a bit younger). It’s one of those things that annoys me a lot as a feminist. Why can’t women date younger men (even much younger) without people commenting on it? Even though my husband and I are basically the same age, people have still made jokes about “robbing the cradle.” Now that we’re past the days when the sole purpose of relationships is reproduction, you would think we would have moved past this as a society.

    • Another Clean Slate April 17, 2013 at 2:35 pm #

      You would think so! It is really just a joke between us, but definitely I cringe a bit when others make the joke!

  18. Theresa April 17, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

    If you are a cougar, I must be a sabertooth tiger!! 🙂

  19. Britton April 17, 2013 at 3:36 pm #

    Stopping in from SITS! There is NOTHNG wrong with dating outside of your intended age target. Besides…you both look cute together so it doesn’t even matter! 😉

  20. Melissa @ Completely Eclipsed April 17, 2013 at 8:41 pm #

    I don’t think 4 years is a big deal. It’s not like you’re 20 and he’s 16. I think it’s more about the phase of life you are in. If he’s a 26 year old homebody and you’re a 30 year old party girl things might not fit, but as long as you’re in the same life phase I say soak up that 26 year old stamina if you know what I mean.

  21. Kimberly H. Smith April 17, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

    I’m a cougar/puma too! Hubby and I started dating in high school when I was a senior and he was a SOPHOMORE. Everyone else has made it more of a big deal than we did. I was 2 years ahead of him in school, but since his bday is in January and mine is in September…I always say we’re only 1 year and 3 mos apart not a whole 2 years. Currently I’m 40 and he’s 39. But later this year, I’ll be 41 and he’ll still be 39 for another 3+ months. It was a little dicey when I went to college b/c I was a freshman and he was a junior in high school and of course later I was a sophomore in college and he was a senior in high school. But we’ve been together 23 years and have a wonderful son. It works!

    • Another Clean Slate April 17, 2013 at 9:19 pm #

      It’s good to know it works! I am sure it was funny when you were in school 🙂

  22. Bradley Charbonneau April 18, 2013 at 1:15 am #

    This cracked me up, “I’m older, but still shallow.”

    I think actual “age” or the “numbers” mean so little. It’s what you’ve done with those years that matters. You can do a whole lot in X years … a whole lotta nothing. 😉

    Bradley Charbonneau’s Pass the Sour Cream A-Z Challenge.

  23. Holly April 18, 2013 at 10:12 pm #

    My husband is almost two years younger than me and it’s never been a big deal. I’m 31 and he likes to give me crap because he will just now turn 30 this year – I feel you on that one! 🙂

    • Another Clean Slate April 18, 2013 at 10:15 pm #

      Yah its more just a way to tease one another- because we are so perfect in every other way 🙂

  24. marcyl April 19, 2013 at 6:46 pm #

    You guys look great together. My husband is younger than I am by the same number of years. The only time when it was weird was when I could legally drink and he couldn’t and his friends tried to get me to buy beer for them.

  25. zoe April 19, 2013 at 8:02 pm #

    What’s four lousy years? I really do have stuff in my fridge older than that…I am 49 my partner was 55 when he died a year ago…spend your time as you currently are…unconcerned with the dumb ass crap…you look and sound very happy together, enjoy that!

    • Another Clean Slate April 19, 2013 at 8:05 pm #

      We are very happy! Thanks for the tips! PS Check out my latest post- I nominated you for an award 🙂

      • zoe April 19, 2013 at 9:41 pm #

        You DID!? How sweet are you? Off I go…

  26. cynkingfeeling April 20, 2013 at 8:20 am #

    I agree with the others-age doesn’t really matter. As long as both parties are of a legal age, then the most important thing is whether you enjoy being with each other.

  27. Tomekha April 20, 2013 at 9:44 am #

    I don’t think your age difference is that big of a deal. Age is but a number. If he makes you happy and you make him happy, there is really no other consideration.

  28. Kendra (@KendraAllanson) April 20, 2013 at 12:42 pm #

    This was so funny to read. I’m 10 years older than my husband and often get teased by friends about being a “cougar”. I assured them that the Google-searched definition of “cougar” is comprised of an age gap of 12 years or more. Whew. Just missed it.

  29. Bee April 20, 2013 at 7:43 pm #

    My husband was 24 and I was 30 when we met, and the idea of dating someone so young scared me. I used to babysit a kid his age when the kid was 5 and I was 11! Like you and your boyfriend, we made some concessions, and it turns out my husband is much more mature than I am in many ways. We are now 37 and 43, and the age difference is forgotten. Well, mostly. 😉 Good for you for dating outside your comfort zone!

  30. tmwhickman (@fercryinoutloud) April 21, 2013 at 11:52 pm #

    Lol–I’m five years older than my husband. I tease him about it all the time–especially when he’s talking music!

  31. Sunni Morris April 28, 2013 at 1:57 am #

    Four years difference is not that much. I wouldn’t worry about it unless it was twenty or thirty.

    Sunni
    http://sunni-survivinglife.blogspot.com/

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